Victoria BC Therapy Blog

Disturbing dreams…

Dear Dr. C,

I am a 19 year old woman and have been noticing I have been having a very different turn in my dreams lately.   Some are good, some are entertaining but there is also some really disturbing, bad stuff in there and I was wondering if you could help me figure out why.

A dreamer


Dear Dreamer,

A different turn in your dreams could indicate that your inner world is shifting and that something new is on the horizon for you.  Bad stuff in dreams isn’t necessarily “bad” if you know what I mean.

Without knowing exactly what the dreams are and their context in your life, it is pretty difficult for me to give you any specific advice.  I do encourage you to begin to develp a communication with your dreams.  It will open a wonderful, new aspect to your life! Read more…


Eating Disorder is affecting her life!

Dear Dr. C,

I am a 53 year old woman and I have had an eating disorder since I was in high school. Don’t tell me to go into therapy because I have already done that for many years. I’ve talked about my childhood until I’m blue in the face! I’ve done all the “alphabet” therapies: CBT, EFT, EMDR, etc. etc.  My doctor has given me anti-depressants, but they didn’t help. Even though I don’t throw up any more, I still think about food about a million times a day. Recently I gained 5 pounds that I just can’t lose. I hate myself so much for gaining the weight that I have purged and taken laxatives recently. But, at my age, it is physically difficult for me to purge any more.  I am frustrated and hate myself. I don’t even know what you could say but anything will help.

Signed,  Desperate

Read more…


Anxiety and Fear: What to do?

Dear Dr. C.,

Basically, on one level, there’s nothing wrong with my life.  I’m a 55 year old divorced woman (no children) who has a good career, a nice apartment, a dog that is my best friend.  Sure, there are things I’d like to have that I don’t have.  I’d like a loving partner, for example (I haven’t had sex in a loooong time!)  I’d like to pay off my credit cards.   I wish I had more time to do some things I should be doing like yoga or meditation.  But basically these are minor complaints.  Generally, I’m quite ok.  Read more…


Lost Family Pet

Dear Dr. C.,

Three weeks ago, our sweet dog, Elly, died. She was a rescue dog from Mexico and my husband and I had her for 12 years. She was our best friend and we took her everywhere with us. She had been sick, off and on for a few months and the vet didn’t really know why. Then one night she was struggling to breathe and we took her to the emergency animal hospital and she died. They gave us her ashes and we have them in our bedroom. But the thing is, I just can’t seem to stop crying and I can’t go to work and I don’t want to have any friends over or go out, and my husband is getting really mad at me. Read more…


It’s time to Mopplestopple!

When my son was around 6 years old, for some now forgotten reason, I decided it was good for him to put his napkin on his lap during meals.  Perhaps I thought it would cut down on laundry!  In any case I was really bugging him about it and it was becoming a source of friction between us at mealtimes.

One day I said to him:  “I am surely tired of nagging you about this, and it doesn’t seem to help anyway.  Can you suggest any plan we could have to help you remember to put your napkin on your lap before you eat?”  He looked at me and said: “Say mopplestopple”.

To myself I thought:  “Huh?  Mopplestopple? What the heck does that mean? “  Out loud I said:  “OK, that’s the plan.  I’ll say mopplestopple and you’ll know what I mean.” Read more…