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Spiritual Toilet Training

Warning!!! This article contains the words: poop, crap and shit. If these words are offensive to you, or if you still say doo-doo or kaka, please do not read on. If you are a dedicated, curious, spiritual seeker who wonders what the heck spiritual training and toilet training have to do with each other, then by all means, carry on.

First, let’s talk about the “spiritual” part. Read more…


Disturbing dreams…

Dear Dr. C,

I am a 19 year old woman and have been noticing I have been having a very different turn in my dreams lately.   Some are good, some are entertaining but there is also some really disturbing, bad stuff in there and I was wondering if you could help me figure out why.

A dreamer


Dear Dreamer,

A different turn in your dreams could indicate that your inner world is shifting and that something new is on the horizon for you.  Bad stuff in dreams isn’t necessarily “bad” if you know what I mean.

Without knowing exactly what the dreams are and their context in your life, it is pretty difficult for me to give you any specific advice.  I do encourage you to begin to develp a communication with your dreams.  It will open a wonderful, new aspect to your life! Read more…


Eating Disorder is affecting her life!

Dear Dr. C,

I am a 53 year old woman and I have had an eating disorder since I was in high school. Don’t tell me to go into therapy because I have already done that for many years. I’ve talked about my childhood until I’m blue in the face! I’ve done all the “alphabet” therapies: CBT, EFT, EMDR, etc. etc.  My doctor has given me anti-depressants, but they didn’t help. Even though I don’t throw up any more, I still think about food about a million times a day. Recently I gained 5 pounds that I just can’t lose. I hate myself so much for gaining the weight that I have purged and taken laxatives recently. But, at my age, it is physically difficult for me to purge any more.  I am frustrated and hate myself. I don’t even know what you could say but anything will help.

Signed,  Desperate

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Anxiety and Fear: What to do?

Dear Dr. C.,

Basically, on one level, there’s nothing wrong with my life.  I’m a 55 year old divorced woman (no children) who has a good career, a nice apartment, a dog that is my best friend.  Sure, there are things I’d like to have that I don’t have.  I’d like a loving partner, for example (I haven’t had sex in a loooong time!)  I’d like to pay off my credit cards.   I wish I had more time to do some things I should be doing like yoga or meditation.  But basically these are minor complaints.  Generally, I’m quite ok.  Read more…


Lost Family Pet

Dear Dr. C.,

Three weeks ago, our sweet dog, Elly, died. She was a rescue dog from Mexico and my husband and I had her for 12 years. She was our best friend and we took her everywhere with us. She had been sick, off and on for a few months and the vet didn’t really know why. Then one night she was struggling to breathe and we took her to the emergency animal hospital and she died. They gave us her ashes and we have them in our bedroom. But the thing is, I just can’t seem to stop crying and I can’t go to work and I don’t want to have any friends over or go out, and my husband is getting really mad at me. Read more…