Victoria BC Therapy Blog
Empty handed I entered this world
Barefoot I leave it.
My coming, my going
Two simple happenings that got entangled.
died Feb 12 1360
October 24, 2012
A client recently shared with me an experience of pain and trauma that she had kept to herself for two years. Understandably, there was emotion that came to the surface. She had not allowed herself to think about the incident, nor cry about it. She was trying to just “let it go”.
The body does not simply “let go” of traumatic experiences. There is a process before the letting go that involves some pretty hard work. A recent study using neuroimaging gives us a clue as to why this might be. Read more…
For many people it may be difficult to understand how the loss of a beloved pet can trigger a deep grief process. When we lose a family member or a close friend, our loss is usually met with sympathy and condolences. We are allowed to grieve. But, talk to a pet owner who has lost an animal companion and you will hear quite a different story.
I know from clients in my therapy practice, as well as from my own personal experience, that many people do not understand the depth of grief at the loss of a pet.
The relationship with pets is multidimensional. When a pet dies we lose a being that offers unconditional love in an uncomplicated and accepting way that few human relationships achieve. Read more…
Not long ago, one of my clients softly told me: “I’m falling in love with myself.” We sat for a while together, gently holding this knowing as you would hold a baby bird in the palm of your hand.
In those few words, we find the goal of psychotherapy. We come to psychotherapy so that we can come to love ourselves.
It seems that at the root of virtually all of the issues brought to my office is some form of self-judgement, self-criticism or self-hatred. In Sanskrit, in an ancient Eastern tradition, it is called the Anava Mala. It is an impurity that is imprinted in our separation from our authentic self. As we heal this wound of separation through the journey inward, there truly is more love. Read more…
the feelings left behind
as you struggled to survive.
As rose petals
fallen from a branch of thorns,
distill the painful memories
to their essence.
Let the fragrance of Truth
in its purity
free you from yourself.
Aug. 2, 2012