Victoria BC Therapy Blog

Coping with Sleep Disorders

The worst thing in the world is to try to sleep and not to. 
-F. Scott Fitzgerald

I’m struck lately with how many of my casual conversations have to do with sleep!  Just about everyone I know, myself  included, seems to be having difficulty with sleep. Research shows about one-third of Canadians struggle with chronic sleep difficulties, but I’d bet the incidence is actually higher.

When I have a good, solid sleep, the next day is golden: my mood is better, my energy is high, and I’m much more focused and attentive.  There’s nothing like a good night’s sleep!

But when I go though a period of sleeplessness, I feel irritable or annoyed more easily.  I feel like I’m living in perpetual jet lag!

You may have difficulty falling asleep, you may not being able to stay asleep or you may awaken too early in the morning.

The sleep experts advise: if you can’t fall asleep within 15-20 minutes, get out of bed and don’t go back until you are sleepy.  I have to confess, this wouldn’t work for me.  I always take longer than 20 minutes to fall asleep!  So I’ve set the bar a little higher for myself. Read more…


The Shift to Daylight Savings Time

A recent study in the New England Journal of Medicine discusses how the incidence of acute myocardial infarction (heart attack!) was significantly increased for the first 3 weekdays after the transition to daylight saving time in the spring.  The effects of losing even one hour of sleep can impact in serious ways.

It can be helpful to take some steps to prepare for the time change.  Below is an article I share with therapy clients and friends here in Victoria.

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The Pride of Inadequacy

The problems and suffering that bring people into therapy is thousand-fold.  Each is different, and their set of circumstances is different.  Despite their uniqueness, one ingrained, behavioral pattern in common to all the clients I see in my counselling practice here in Victoria (and, I’ll count myself in on this!).  At some basic level we believe that we are inadequate, insufficient or incomplete.

It requires a shift of perspective to see that the inadequacy we cultivate, often under the guise of humility, is really a form of pride, the other side of the same coin.

“In his private heart, said the writer, Mark Twain, “no man respects himself.”  We believe we’re not good enough, we feel ashamed of who we are and we spend a good part of our lives looking for someone or something to make us change our minds.

This is more than just a question of self-esteem or self-confidence. It is part of the human condition.  We all live from a mistaken belief we are unworthy.

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In This Passing Moment…

This beautiful poem touches the importance of all-acceptance.

In This Passing Moment…

In this passing moment karma ripens
and all things come to be.
I vow to choose what is:
If there is cost, I choose to pay.
If there is need, I choose to give.
If there is pain, I choose to feel.
If there is sorrow, I choose to grieve.
When burning — I choose heat.
When calm — I choose peace.
When starving — I choose hunger.
When happy — I choose joy.
Whom I encounter, I choose to meet.
What I shoulder, I choose to bear.
When it is my death, I choose to die.
Where this takes me, I choose to go.
Being with what is — I respond to what is.

by Hogen Bayes Sensei


Dreams: A Guiding Force, a Compassionate Friend


“The Gift of Dreaming: Transforming the Mundane into the Sacred”
with Dr. Corrinne Allyson,  Jungian Therapist,  Victoria, BC

Date: Sun, Jan 29 & Feb 5, 2012
Times: 10am – 4pm
Cost: $155 + applicable taxes

To register:  Click here to go to Royal Roads registration

Dreams can be better than the movies and more real than virtual reality.   Dreams can be more frightening than a Stephen King movie, more fanciful than a Walt Disney movie and yes, even more sexy than an X-rated one.  What are dreams?  Why do we dream?  What do these strange nocturnal images mean?  And why should we care, anyway? Read more…